Spenser William Mcfadyen
May 30, 2007 - March 22, 2014
WHO WE HELP
We are here to help any child that is dealing with trauma of any kind, whether that be as a result of the death of a friend or family member, separation and divorce, a major illness of a family member, accident or injury. The gift of Lego gives a child the opportunity to be themselves through creative play instead of having to focus on an illness, grief or any kind of trauma they may be experiencing, even if only for an hour or two at a time.
We have partnered with Caring Rehabilitation Ltd., who will assist the families in navigating insurance details and providing the right treatment needs and/or medical equipment for your child.
We also offer support to parents and assist them with ways to help their children. If parents are also effected by circumstances, we can provide additional services and resources that can be tapped into so that your whole family can heal.
SPENSER'S HEART LEGO ROOM
Our Lego Room is a safe and neutral space where children dealing with trauma can feel empowered by creating designs with Lego. With that focus they begin conversation with an adult worker. The child then feels safe and will begin to share their feelings, thus gaining a sense of control, self-worth and accomplishment.
A mental health expert is in attendance at all times as well as trained volunteers. Children will be "teamed" with the same volunteer each week who will work with them and encourage them to open up and share about their situation and how it's making them feel. Everything is done at the child's own pace, they are free to talk or quietly create with the Lego. Anything that the children talk about in the Lego Room is kept confidential and there are some specific rules that all children must follow.
Check in the Lego Rooms tab for a list of locations and times.
On March 22, 2014, my six year old son, Spenser, was killed in a car accident. At Spenser's funeral I asked friends and family to bring Lego instead of flowers, because Spenser was a Lego maniac. We collected hundreds of boxes of Lego of every kind. In delivering the Lego to local hospitals I discovered that it would be used as therapy for some children who couldn’t otherwise express themselves. It would also be used to ease some of the trauma the children experience when they are admitted to the hospital. An example of this is a little boy that was admitted to hospital and required to have blood drawn every day. This was very traumatic and scary for him. The child life worker told him that he could have some Lego after the blood was taken each day. This took the focus off the scary needles and he started to look forward to receiving another Lego figure to build up his army.
I was told a story about Spenser by a Mom of one of his classmates which made me so proud. This Mom met Spenser when his class went skating at the local arena. Her son has down syndrome and had never skated. Spenser played hockey, so was a pretty good skater. This Mom told me that Spenser was the first child there helping and cheering him on, skating with him and encouraging him. This in itself made me a proud Mom, but the thing that amazed me was that about a month before this Spenser came home and told me that this boy didn't like him. I didn't know at the time that this boy had down syndrome, but we talked about it and found a solution. My son didn't think twice about helping a boy who he thought didn't like him. A true example of Jesus’ love.
These stories confirmed to me that I needed to continue Spenser's legacy of helping children. That’s when I decided to start Spenser’s Heart Children’s Charity, in an effort to help children deal with the traumas in their young lives with the Lego that Spenser loved.